Red Flags of Abuse : Types of Abuse : Fearless! Hudson Valley, Inc.

Red Flags and Warning Signs

Based on your current experience, answer ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ to the following questions to help identify if you are being abused:

Does your partner:

Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?
Continually criticize you, call you names, or insult you?
Expect you to ask permission?
Threaten to hurt you, the children, your family, your pets, or themselves?
Isolate you from your friends, family or your job?
Accuse you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships?
Control you with money?
Put down your accomplishments or goals?
Act jealous, possessive, or not trust you?
Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions on your own?
Prevent you from calling the police or seeking medical attention?
Use intimidation or threats to get you to comply?
Use a weapon to threaten or hurt you?
Degrade you and tell you that you are nothing without them?
Damage property when angry?
Push, slap, bite, kick, or choke you?
Hurt your children?
Constantly call you or show up where you might be with the intent to check if you are telling the truth about where you are?
Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?
Blame you for how they feel or act?
Pressure you sexually for things you aren’t ready for?
Make you feel like there “is no way out” of the relationship?
Prevent you from doing things you want – like spending time with your friends or family?
Force or manipulate you into to having sex or performing sexual acts?
Try to stop you from leaving after a fight?
Demand sex when you were sick, tired, or after beating you?
Ignore your feelings about sex?

Do You:

Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?
Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner’s behavior?
Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?
Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner angry?
Feel like no matter what you do, your partner is never happy with you?
Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?
Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke up?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, it is likely you are experiencing abuse. You are not alone, our advocates are available to help you 24 hours a day. Pick up the phone and call our hotline at 845-562-5340.

Recognizing the Signs of Human Trafficking

Person carries around keys for hotel rooms;
Person seems to be under the control of another person;
Person seems to be under continual surveillance;
Person has all contacts controlled and monitored;
Person doesn’t manage his/her own finances;
Person does not possess own ID or travel documentation and lies about age;
Person works excessively;
Person lives in poor or cramped conditions, such as multiple-occupation household;
Person is not paid or is paid very little;
Person lives with employer;
Person speaks little or none of the local language;
Person exhibits fear of being deported;
Person is seldom alone and is not allowed privacy;
Person has visible injuries such as scars, burns, lacerations, and bruises;
Person has injuries around head, including the face, nose, and mouth;
Person has untreated infections and sickness;
Person’s appearance betrays poor health and unsanitary living conditions;
Person exhibits drug use;
Person exhibits compliant, fearful, panicky behavior.